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Archive for October, 2009

50 Things to accomplish before I turn 50.

Posted by betty Saturday, October 24, 2009 at 11:10 pm | Comments (4)

1

Travel to US

 

2

Go to heaven

 

3

Write a fiction book

 

4

Go sailing with a celebrity

 

5

Take ballet dance

 

6

Have a make over - enlarged breast

 

7

Make 550 new friends each year

 

8

Take a nap on a Saturday afternoon

 

9

Have a complete body massage, facial, manicure, etc

 

10

Go to Disney Land

 

11

Learn to fly fish

 

12

Memorize the whole Bible in one year

 

13

Turn into a bird for a day and fly around the world

 

14

Read a new book every month

 

15

Ride a horse or donkey

 

16

Drive a convertible

 

17

Go to Alaskan cruise

 

18

Learn to snowboard and join a competition

 

19

Lose 120 pounds - lost 26 so far

 

20

Fly a parachute

 

21

Learn Greek

 

22

Apply for a Reality TV show

 

23

Sail around the world in 90 days

 

24

Swim in ocean - though I am scared of moving water

 

25

Learn how to ride a bike

 

26

Call my mom every week, even though it is expensive

 

27

Watch ‘The Price is Right’ daily

 

28

Buy  a home

 

29

Graduate from college

 

30

Own a Volvo 245 DL (diel)

 

31

Write a book about my life

 

32

Work with the homeless every weekend

 

33

Meet US President

 

34

Get a PhD

 

35

Secretly contribute to a family in need

 

36

Get married and remarried

 

37

Have ten children

 

38

Go on a family vacation in Hawaii

 

39

Own jewelry

 

40

Have my nose done like Michael Jackson’s

 

41

Eat Sushi (raw fish)

 

42

Join Nas car race

 

43

Make new friends weekly

 

44

Keep old friends for years

 

45

Be a supportive to others

 

46

Be a foster parent and adopt 4 children

 

47

Learn 10 languages + 7 that I already know

 

48

Learn how to play guitar

 

49

Be – light, salt of the earth

 

50

Just be ME

 

Ok, it is not midnight yet, though it is 9:00 am in Kenya, so technically, I am already 50 yrs. I cannot believe that I have lived for a half a century. I was 30 yesterday, well, time goes fast, it is what we do with that time that matters!  I have accomplished some of the 50 things, some I will before I reach 100 yrs. My grandmother lived to be 105 yrs. I am estimating 101 yrs for ME.

Categories : General Interest
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Money, Sex & Power:

Posted by betty Monday, October 19, 2009 at 1:05 pm | Comments (0)

Is it always possible to know the difference between enforced rules that are just and unjust, and between liberties rightly and wrongly taken, being faithful to one wife/husband?  Money, Sex, Power (MSP) tops them all.   King David, one of the Israelite’s Old Testament king experienced all these three. He had money, many wives, and power.  He lusted after a married woman, organized for her husband to be killed on the front line war. II Samuel 11:2-27. Prophet Nathan announces to David later that God will forgive him, but the sword will not depart from his house.  II Samuel 12: 1-15.  On newspapers, internet and magazine, we read about - Money, Sex and Power every day. Does this make it right?  

Whatever your answer, being faithful, honest and truthful is the best way to live a decent life and avoid MSP. Don’t forget that those who believe in God have room for forgiveness. David’s earnest prayer after all these mess is found in Psalm 51:1-15 “ Be merciful to me a sinner”..,

Thought for the day: which of these have greater consequence(s) Infidelity, embezzlement of money, or misuse of power?

 

 

How Banks sees mortgage borrowers!

Posted by betty Tuesday, October 6, 2009 at 7:53 pm | Comments (1)

AP  Alan Zibel writes, nearly one in three borrowers who applied for a mortgage last year was denied as lenders kept their standards tight as the mortgage crisis accelerated, the government reported Wednesday.

In its annual look at mortgage practices among lending institutions, Federal Reserve said the denial rate for all home loans was about 32 percent last year — about the same as in 2007, but up from 29 percent in 2006. The denial rates for blacks and Hispanics were more than twice as high as the rate for white borrowers.

The report highlights massive changes in the lending industry after the housing market bust. Overall loan applications were down by a third from a year earlier, and were half the level in 2006.

Loans backed by the Federal Housing Administration soared to 21 percent of all loans made last year from less than 5 percent in both 2005 and 2006.

For black borrowers, more than half of all loans were FHA-insured, more than triple a year earlier. For Hispanics, that number shot up to 45 percent, more than four times as high as in 2007. That was troubling news for consumer advocates.

“I’m hard-pressed to believe that many of those borrowers couldn’t have been served by the private sector,” said John Taylor, chief executive of the National Community Reinvestment Coalition, a consumer group in Washington. “It implies that the industry has shut down in serving this population.”

High-priced loans with rates at least 3 percentage points above the rate for prime loans, shrunk to nearly 12 percent of the market from a high of 29 percent in 2006. But that figure mainly reflects unusually low interest rates during the recession, the report said, and understates the disappearance from the market of high-priced subprime loans made to borrowers with poor credit.

Last year, about 17 percent of blacks and 15 percent of Hispanics got high-priced loans, compared with about 7 percent of whites. Even controlling for factors that might widen that discrepancy, there still a gap of almost 8 percentage points between the number of blacks and whites who got high-cost loans.

The mortgage industry says lenders are not discriminating by race, and are making adjustments based on borrowers’ risk profile — such as their credit score and the size of their down payments.

“You still have a certain degree of risk-based pricing in the market,” said Jay Brinkmann, the Mortgage Bankers Association’s chief economist.

Lenders also scaled back dramatically on the amount of so-called “piggyback” mortgages, in which borrowers used second mortgages to avoid making a 20 percent down payment. Those loans have virtually disappeared from the market: Only 98,000 were made last year, down from 1.3 million annually in 2006. Courtesy Associate Press.

The data, collected from nearly 8,400 lenders, is required under the Home Mortgage Disclosure Act of 1975.

 

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2011 GREEN CARD LOTTERY

Posted by betty Sunday, October 4, 2009 at 2:19 pm | Comments (0)

The Department of State announces the opening of the registration period for the DV-2011 Diversity Visa lottery. Entries for the DV-2011 Diversity Visa lottery must be submitted electronically between noon, Eastern Daylight Time (EDT) (GMT-4), Friday, October 2, 2009, and noon, Eastern Standard Time (EST) (GMT-5), Monday, November 30, 2009. Applicants may access the electronic Diversity Visa entry form (E-DV) at www.dvlottery.state.gov during the registration period. Paper entries will not be accepted. Applicants are strongly encouraged not to wait until the last week of the registration period to enter. Heavy demand may result in website delays. No entries will be accepted after noon EST on November 30, 2009.

The congressionally mandated Diversity Immigrant Visa Program is administered on an annual basis by the Department of State and conducted under the terms of Section 203(c) of the Immigration and Nationality Act (INA). Section 131 of the Immigration Act of 1990 (Pub. L. 101-649) amended INA 203 and provides for a class of immigrants known as “diversity immigrants.” Section 203(c) of the INA provides a maximum of 55,000 Diversity Visas (DVs) each fiscal year to be made available to persons from countries with low rates of immigration to the United States. Check more detail at http://www.dvlottery.state.gov  Diversity Visa Program

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what happens after men loose their wives?

Posted by betty Sunday, October 4, 2009 at 1:29 pm | Comments (0)

For those of you who watch ‘Everybody Hates Chris”, Mr. Omar is funeral attendant and rents a room from Chris’s parents’ home. Mr. Omar’s main job is to console widows whose husbands have just died. On one episode Chris’s sister, Tanya asked him why he only take care of women whose husbands have died and not men. His response was ‘women need more attention, and they are delicate’

This is the opposite of widows from Kenya. Men are considered delicate and are taken care of immediately after the burial of their wives. I remember very distinctively after the burial of my favorite aunt, her widower was given one of my cousin’s who was considered low class to spend the night with (other details goes on at night). The following day, my cousin was asked to leave the homestead. Her first reaction was, you used me and now you want me to leave? The response from the elders was ‘yes’ she was paid some money to keep her mouth shut. My cousin left a very bitter woman. On the second day, my uncle had to be given another wife who was a third his age.

Ok, you may be thinking that this is gross, but I thought and still think that it is abuse towards women. No one talked about it. A month later, my uncle left the homestead and returned to the city to continue with his life without my second cousin.

All these traditions and customs are done to appease the dead and scare their spirits from returning to haunt the living.  I wondered all about these, and yet never had the courage to ask anyone. My next assignment is to sit down with one of the elders and do an interview, and discuss Christian’s perspective as well.

Are you in abusive relationship?

Posted by betty Friday, October 2, 2009 at 10:28 am | Comments (0)

Many people stay in abusive relationship for different reasons. Abusive behavior comes in different forms, 1) Physical abuse include - hitting, slapping, shoving or pushing around, 2) Verbal abuse include - one partner degrades the other  with harsh words, profanity, name calling and insults. 3) Psychological and emotional abuse is the most painful and difficult to measure.  This included overly controlling behavior, emotional blackmail, and episodes of extreme jealousy. If your spouse/partner engages in any of the above behaviors,  it is important to seek help before it is too late. Comments are welcome. Next article will give places to find help to abusive relationship.

Word for today - Abusive (English) Kutukana (Swahili)